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在希腊人疯狂的狞笑声和特洛伊人惊恐的惨叫声中,特洛伊变成了火的海洋,化为了死亡地狱。在炙热效果下会释放吐炎,因此玩家身边一定要有可攻击之物,才能顺利引发《传奇世界2》中追炎+破魔+吐炎的3点连击点累积。“大谎言”有很多的表现形式,但最常见的就是“我有问题”或“我不够好”,再或“我的能力不足,还需要提高自己”。你会怎么做?(财富中文网)“Changeyourthoughtsandyouchangeyourworld.”Dr.NormanVincentPeale“Thoughtscanbewonderfulservantsbuttheymaketerriblemasters.”AttributedtoSocratesIfyourecallthisisablogaboutleadership.Foreveryemergingleaderthereisanaspectofself-developmentandself-awarenessthatcannotbeoverlooked.ThisisthedimensionofPersonalMastery.Butwhatdoes“personalmastery”evenmean?InthisarticleIwanttoexploreadefinitionofPersonalMastery,examinewhatIcall“TheBigLie”andthenlookatsomekeystepsthatyoucanfollowtomovebeyondthelieandfindyourownpersonalpathtomastery.DefiningPersonalMasteryI’mgoingtosuggestthatyouopenyourmindtoanewunderstandingofpersonalmastery;itisprobablydifferentthanwhatyouthought.Mostoftenwhenwethinkof‘mastery’wethinkofthingslikeskillsthatwedevelopthroughyearsandyearsofpatientpractice.Usuallywhenwetalkaboutmastery,wethinkofthingslikesports,music,thesciences,thearts,businessskillsandsimilarexamples.Masteryinanyofthoseareasisaby-productofsteady,unrelentingpractice,puttinginthe“tenthousandhours”assuggestedbyMalcolmGladwellinhisbook“Outliers”whichisastudyofwhatmakespeoplemerely“successful”versus“masterful.”Tomastertheviolin,forexample,youneedtoputin10,000hoursofpractice.But,notmerely‘practice’---practicewithfocusedintentionandpassion.Themindsetofthepersonpracticingandthe10,000hoursareofequalimportance.Butbeyondthemasteryofphysicalskills,thereisanotherkindofmasterythatisdevelopedwithinoneself,themasteryofone’sthoughts.Andforme,itisthesuprememasterybecausewithmasteryoverone’sthoughts,anyotherformofmasteryisgoingtobemucheasier.Itisn’taboutfiguringoutwhichthoughtsare‘right’orwhichthoughtsare‘bad’andthenonlyentertaining‘good’thoughts,thoughthatcanbehelpful.It’saboutdiscoveringtheawesomepowerthatlieshiddeninsideofyourself.Masteryofthoughtbeginswiththeunderstandingofthenatureofthoughtandwhetherweareits’servantorits’master.Theanswerformostpeopleisthattheyhaveunwittinglybecometheservantoftheirthoughts,enslavedbytheirownthinking,withoutbeingawarethatthisisso.TheworstofthesethoughtsiswhatIcall“TheBigLie.”UntiloneuncoversanddiscardsTheBigLie,personalmasteryisgoingtoremainelusive,unattainable,ameredream,outofreach.Regardingthe“howto”ofmasteringourthinking,wewillcomebacktothat.Fornow,justbeopentotheideathatuntilwearemastersofourownthoughts,wewillbecutofffrommeaningfulpersonalmastery.Uncovering“TheBigLie”So,whatis“TheBigLie?”Inshort,itisacorebeliefthathumanbeingsagreetobeforetheyarefiveyearsold.IthasmanyvariationsbuttheessenceofTheBigLieis“Somethingiswrongwithme”or“Iamnotgoodenough”or“I’minadequateandsoIhavetoprovemyself.”Ifyouarehonestwithyourself,youknowaboutthislie…and…manypeople,mostpeopleinfact,believeitisthetruth.Asaresulttheyspendmuchoftheirlifeenergytryingto‘prove’thattheyaregood,adequate,capable,worthy,lovable,etc.Butremember…itwasalietobeginwith…so,whydopeoplespendsomuchenergytryingtodisproveit?Becausetheybelieveit,deepdown,atanunconsciouslevel,and,overtimehavelostawarenessofthisbelief.Soyouwillask,ifbeingwrong,inadequate,unworthy,incapable,flawed,defective…arealllies…thenwhatisthetruth?I’mgladyouasked!Thetruthisthateachpersonispowerfulbeyondmeasure.Eachpersonisalreadyperfectatthemomentofbirthwithallthegoodnessandworthinessandresourcestheywillevenneedtoachievemasteryintheirlives.TheyreceiveafreegiftfromtheUniverse:everyoneiswholeandvaluable,andthatneverchanges.ButbecauseofTheBigLie,theyhaveunknowinglyabdicatedtheirpowerwhentheyagreedwiththelie,andthenforgotaboutit.YoumaythinkofTheBigLieasa“thoughtgenerator”becauseitliesinthecoreofyourconsciousness.Fromtimetotime,thoughtsappearinyourconsciousnessandahighpercentageofthemwillbemirroringyourbiglie.Atthesametime,thoughtsseemsocompellingandreal,youseldomchallengethem.Weactuallythinkourthoughtsare‘whoweare.’No,theyarenot.Wearetheonewhohasthethought.ButuntilwediscardTheBigLie,itismoreaccuratetosay“ourthoughtshaveus.”Throughaninnocentmistake,longago,wehavesimplyfallenintoatrapofbelievingTheBigLieandasaresultwespendourlifeenergystrugglingagainstitandthemorewestruggle,likebeinginquicksand,thedeeperwesink.Whenyoudigyourselfintoahole…thebestthingtodoistostopdigging!But,amazingly,whenwearenotawareofTheBigLieoperatinginthebackground(liketheOSofacomputer)wewillspendmoreenergyprovingitistrue,provingthatwearerightaboutbeinginadequate,tryingto‘fix’ourselves,andverylittleenergydealingwiththerealissue:gettingridofthelie!Here’sthegoodnews:intheend,TheBigLieisjustathought,aconcept,abelief,andabstractionandhasnopowerexceptthepoweryouhaveloanedtoit.Likeanyotherthought,itcanbe,rejectedanddiscardedandreplacedwithmoreusefulthoughtsofyourchoosing.Thebestnewsofcourseisthatthereisnothingwrongwithyounowandthereneverhasbeenanythingwrongwithyou.TheUniversedoesnotmakejunk.Here’stheCatch:TheBigLieshowsupinyourthoughtsinamyriadofformsthatmayseem‘real’unmaskedtoyoubecauseyouhaveentertainedthelieforsolong,itseemslikereality.Seeingthis,youcantakeactiontogetonthepathofpersonalmasteryoveryourthoughtsandfalsebeliefs…if…youarewillingtopracticetheartofattention…focusingyourattentiononthoughtsthatserveyouinsteadofTheBigLiethatenslavesyou.YourPersonalPathtoMastery.Herearethreeexercisesthatanyonecanpracticetobegintoregainpersonalcontrolovertheirpowerofattention.Ofcourse,its’uptoyoutochoosetodothework.And,yourthoughtsmaytellyou“Don’twasteyourtime”or“I’llprobablyfail”or“It’stoolateforme.”ThoseareexamplesofthoughtsgeneratedbyTheBigLie.Myadvice:don’tbelievethem.Theyarealljustsmalllies,generatedbytheBigLie.ExerciseNo.1:MasteringYourEmotionalState.Thereisasayingthat“Wearealwayslivinginthefeelingofourthinking.”Thismeansthat,whenwebelieveanegativethought,thereisareactioninourbodyandweexperiencea‘negative’emotion.Thoughtstriggeremotionalstatesinthebody.Usuallywe‘findourselves’inanunwantedemotionalstateandthenweblameourcircumstancesorotherpeopleforourunhappyfeeling.Thetruthis,youremotionalstateisalways100%inyourpowertocontrol.Youjusthavetochangethethoughtandyouremotionalstatewillchange.And,ofcourseyouneedto‘see’thatthisisso.TheeasiestwaytoexperienceyourpoweroveryourstateistolearntofocusyourattentiononthefeelingofBeingGrateful.Sitdowneachmorningwithyourjournalandstartlistingeverythingyoucanthinkofthatyoucanbegratefulfor:yourhealth,yourfamily,yourjob,yourlife,youabilities,etc.Thenfocusonthemoneatatimeandreallyfeelhowgratefulyouareforeachthingonyourlist.Notjust‘reading’thewordsbutexperiencingtheemotionofgratefulnessinsideyourbody.Keepdoingthiseverydayanddoitanytimewhenyou‘findyourself’inabadmood,feelingangry,frustration,self-pity,whatever.Doyouhavefoodtoeatandwatertodrink?Doyouhaveairtobreathe?Areyourlungsworking?Yourheart?Doyouhavelegstotakeyouplaces,andeyestoseethingsandearstohearmusicandthesoundofyourchild’svoice?Manypeopledonot.Practice“TheAttitudeofGratitude”throughoutthedayandyouwilldiscoverthatthepowerofyourattentionthatyouabdicatedwillreturntoyou.Youwillregainthepowertochoosehowyoufeel,notbasedon‘circumstances’butbasedonyourmasteryoveryourownawareness.ExerciseNo.2:LearningtoExperienceLife“Inside-Out”Mostpeoplestillbelievethat“thingshappentothem”andthenasaresult,theyfeelacertainway.Whileitistruethat“thingshappen,”howyoufeelisalwaysaresultofyourownthoughtabout“whathappened”andnevercausedbytheeventitself.Noonecan“makeyoufeel”thiswayorthatway…thoughitiscommontohearpeopleblameothersfortheirfeelings“Shemademeangry”or“Hemademefeelsmall.”Thetruth,again,isthatduetoTheBigLie,youarereadytobelievethatyouareinadequate,avictimofcircumstances,andthatotherpeoplecandecidehowyoufeel.Itjustisn’tso!Liveislived“fromtheinside-out”andnotfrom“theoutside-in.”MostchildrenwhensmallhaveadolloraTeddyBearora‘securityblanket’thatseemstobringthemcomfort,asenseofsafetyandhappinesswhentheyneedit.Didyouhavesomethinglikethat?Sohere’saquestion:doyoureallythinkyourfeelingsandexperienceoflove,safety,happiness…camefromaninanimatedollorTeddyBear?Ofcoursenot!Thosenicefeelingswerecreatedbyyou,insideyourself…andthenyou‘blamed’thefeelingsontheobject.Inthesameway,whenwefeelunhappy,wehavethehabitof‘blaming’otherpeopleorcircumstancesforourbadorunhappyfeelings.Weevenbelievethatsomemagicalperson‘outthere’can‘makeus’happy.Thisexerciseisverysimple.Justdrawaverticallinedownthemiddleofablankpage.Ontheleftside,drawaperson.Ontherightside,drawadollorTeddyBear.Imaginethepersonisfeelingloved,safe,happy,joyful.Nowaskyourself:“Howlikelyisitthattheperson‘received’thosefeelingsfromtheTeddy?Keepthisexperienceinmindeachtimeyou‘findyourself’feelingunhappyfeelings,orhappyfeelings.Remindyourselfthatthefeelingscamefrominsideofyou,notfromtheoutside.Remindyourselfthat“Iamalwayslivinginthefeelingofmythinking.”Bypracticingthis,youwillbeabletorefocusyourattentiontothesourceofyourunhappiness---orhappiness---yourownthoughtsandtheemotionstheytrigger.Youcanstopblamingothersorblamingcircumstances,andmostimportantly,youcanstopfeelinglikeapowerlessvictim.Afteraperiodofpractice,thispatternwillbecomeautomaticforyou.ExerciseNo.3:“Don’tBelieveYourThoughtsareWhoYouAre”Remember:youareNOTyourthoughts…youaretheconsciousnessthatobservesyourthoughts.“You”arethesilentwitness.Youarethemaster.Here’saneasyexerciseyoucando,inyourmindandonpaper,anytimeandanywhere.1.Thinkofanunhappyconversationwithanotherperson,acolleague,spouse,etc.2.Nowre-imaginethewordsthatwerespokenby‘thosepeople’---whattheysaid,theirtoneofvoice,facialexpression,bodylanguageandofcoursethefeelingofunhappiness3.Inyourmind’seye,“see”thosetwopeopleasifyouwerehovering20feetintheairabovethemandtheyare‘waydownthere’havingtheconversation.Youcanseeandheareverything.Whatisdifferentisthatyouarenot‘inyourbody’butratheryouare‘dissociated’fromyourselfandyouhavetheexperience(inyourimagination)ofobserving“thosepeopledownthere.”4.Finally,inyourjournal,writeabout“thosepeople”whohadthatconversationanddoitin3rdperson.Youwillnotusetheword“I”atall.Youcangivethemnameslike“Mr.A”and“MissB.”Writeabouthow“thosepeople”werefeelingandwhat“thosepeople”musthavebeenthinking.Writeabouttwopagesuntilyouhavecapturedtheexperienceonpaperandyoucanreallyfeelsome“distance”betweenyouastheobserverandthatperson“downthere.”Begintodevelopsomecompassionfor‘thosepeople’andletyourharshjudgmentsdropaway.Dothiseverydaywithonerecentpersonalexperienceonly.Spend15minuteseachtime.Aftereachwritingnoticehowdifferentitfeelswhenyoudissociateyourselffromthesituation,discardthe“I”positionandsimplyseeandhearthesituationasanobserver.Ipromiseyouthisisapowerfulexerciseandifyoupracticeitdaily,itwillleadyoutoagreatdealofpersonalpower.Becauseyouwillrediscoverwhoyoureallyare.Ican’tsayalotmoreaboutthatbecauseitissomethingyoumustchoosetodo.WhatCanyouGainfromPersonalMastery·Youcanregainasenseofpersonalfreedomandpowerinyourlife·YouwilldiscardtheBigLieandneverbelieveitagain…itwillseemludicroustoyou!·Yourpersonalself-awarenesswillcontinuetogrowalongwithyourpersonalsatisfaction·Youwilltrustyourselfdeeply,knowingthereisnothingthatneedsfixing·Youwillrealizethateveryoneyoumeetisliving“outside-in”---believingthattheircircumstancescausetheirfeelingsandtheirpossibilities,andyoucanuseyourawarenessincompassionatewaystohelpthem‘see’whatyounowsee.·Onceyou‘see’thatyouare“alwayslivinginthefeelingofyourthinking’youwon’tbeableto‘un-see’itagain·Youwillrediscoverthathappinessisnota‘destination’oragoal…ithasalwaysbeentheirinsideofyou,waitingforyoutorediscoverit.Itwasonlyyourthinkingthatgotintheway.·Andyouwillknowthatyoualwayshaveachoice:youcanbehappy…oryoucanbe‘right’aboutyourBigLie.Whichwillyouchoose.Sowhat’sthebenefitofallthisfromabusinessperspective?WellIhopeitis100%obviousthathappy,confidentself-awarepeoplearegoingtobemoreproductiveandmoreeffectiveinmeetingbusinesschallenges.Andtheyaregoingtobebettercolleagues,teammembers,collaborators….becausetheyarenevergoingtotakeanythingpersonally.Insteadtheywilloperatefromastateofdeepcompassion,wisdomand…personalmastery.Inotherwords,theywillbeleaders.Willittaketenthousandhours?Notlikely.Practicetheseexercisesmorningandnightandinbetweenforsixweeksandexperiencethechanges.I’llbelookingforwardtohearingaboutwhathappens.Mostpeoplewillsimplyreadthisarticleandforgetaboutit.Whatwillyoudo?(责任编辑:马郡HN022)本文来源:财富中文网责任编辑:王晓易_NE0011穿长衫才有民国文人范儿7岁那年盛夏见了幅年画。